It all starts with an idea…
(c) K Wicks
Notes and ideas
ideas
Cities in the Sky
It turns out, there have been many instances of cities in the sky, or fata morgana as they have been named. I only knew on one in China a few years back, but seems there have been others. Charles Fort collected a number of tales as below and detailed in his book New Lands.
In October of 1796 a mirage of a walled town had been seen distinctly for half an hour at Yougal in Ireland. Again upon March 9th 1797 in Yougal had been seen a mirage of a walled town.
In June of 1801 a mirage of an unknown city, It was seen for more than an hour. A representation of mansions surrounded by shrubbery, with forests behind.
October 10th 1881 that at Rugenwalde, Pomerania now Poland and Germany the mirage of a village had been seen in the sky, Snow covered roofs from which hung icicles.
On June 29th 1882 over lake Orsa in Sweden, representations of steam ships had been seen in the sky, and an island covered with vegetation.
March 12th 1890 at 4pm in the sky of Ashland, Ohio was seen a representation of a large unknown city.
Early in June 1897 in the Yukon in Alaska, A city had been seen in the sky, The description of this city is that it looked like some immense city from the ancient past.
On Feb 17th 1901 it is said Indians of Alaska had told of the occasional appearance of city, appearing suspended in the sky, description by visitors to this area, we could see plainly houses, well defined streets, here and there rose tall spires over huge buildings, which appeared to be ancient mosques and cathedrals. More like an ancient European city.
August 2nd 1908 at Ballyconneely on the coast of Ireland, was seen a phantom city, of different sized houses, in different styles of architecture, visible for over 3 hours.
And in 2015 there was a sighting and video footage in China of one.
Hard to know for sure what is going on up there, but interesting none-the-less.
(c) K Wicks
Myths, Monsters and Legends
I was bound to get round to an article of this nature eventually. I have been mulling over myths, monsters and legends for over 30 years now. And although having previously accepted that these things were fantasy and fictional, rational thought and more research has now made me rethink that presumption. I’ll mention a few and how they fit into today’s landscape for me.
Giants and titans – we have had stories and tales of giants for our entire history. The book of Genesis mentions them, all old stories and legends have them at some point, and we even have modern tales of them. But what if they were real? Giant trees and other huge animals show there has been a time before of a greater size than now. Jack and the beanstalk spring to mind here. There have been whispers and stories of a land above ours, as well as below, so could it be that they were or are on land, just not the one we inhabit?
Olympics, gods and competition – they say we are made in gods image and compete to be the best. But what if we aren’t the best that’s ever been. We just try to emulate and replicate it as best we know how. We try to be the strongest, fastest, jump the highest, but only a much smaller scale than once was. Maybe.
Leviathan, mermaids, cracken – monsters and mysteries of the oceans have always been with us as long as we have been seafaring I should imagine. But where did they start? Did we have gigantic ‘monsters’ lurking in the depths of the seas? Could it be that from those strange times and great upheavals of the past there were things different from us as we know ourselves now. But maybe we were different back then too.
Vampires – it’s no secret we have historical references throughout most cultures to blood sacrifices or drinking blood. But is there any truth in it? There’s talk of young blood rejuvenating older people in mainstream articles now, so it’s not something they are trying to hide. All the movies and books of that nature had to be prepping us for something didn’t they?
Odin, Middle earth, Ragnarök – this one is interesting to me as it seems to overlap with the giants, and involves an end of days event which hold some weight to our current path in time. They have a land in their legends called Niflheim during a period called the Great Void (there is the word ‘great’ again, possibly a marker as I suspect in my previous article, There’s nothing great about it. But the word is awfully close to Nephilim, a giant race from Enoch’s time and a cross between the fallen angels and humankind. Funny how it starts to weave in to other things, or you realise where those other legends and tales may have come from.
We often dwell in the past, and for certain things, I think it is necessary and can help you to understand where we are and where this is all going…
(c) MKW Publishing
Sim City
There is a growing consensus that the simulation hypothesis may not be as far-fetched as once some may have thought. The way being paved for this through various films and ideas and as we gather more information about the apparent world around us and the construct upon which we base our ‘reality’. So, in my usual way, I shall use a list of films to illustrate how reality can and is determined by what’s around you. And by changing or simulating a different environment, can thereby change your reality and perceptions towards it.
The Matrix – so far this film is kind of heralded as the top spot for simulation theory played out in visual terms. It’s easy to understand, requires very little thought and appears to cover all bases. It’s too slick but a good starting point to get familiar with the idea.
Dark City – for me this film covers all bases and is neatly complex, it’s got psychological, physical, mental, metaphysical aspects and more.
Logans Run – This is a strange film, and has all sorts of overtones and undertones. But their reality is dictated and controlled and is no longer questioned.
Ready player one – an entertaining and fun look at the idea of a metaverse where it caters to your every want. Unless your want is to be able to fit in to normal life. It’s about finding out who you are by thinking you need to be someone else. Done in the classic Spielberg 80’s style, which I can’t fault.
Free guy – a recent film and goes even further into the computer programs running in the simulation touched upon in matrix. The replication of agent Smith, the fear of deletion by others. But this takes it further and goes with AI becoming sentient. An awareness of the system and programming develops leading to an evolution of thought. It’s a fun film though too and I recommend it. Easy viewing with lots of thinking material.
The Truman Show – a simulation of reality to convince one person it is. Meant to be portrayed as a reality TV show, but it’s a pretend sheltered fabricated existence. Until the party subject to the manipulation and lies snaps and realises all is not what it seems.
Star Trek – Next Generation – Many episodes involving the holodeck and varying degrees of simulated reality, but episode 138 of the series is very interesting.
Updated: realised I forgot two that should be in this list. Tron and lawnmower man. Both of those where people become part of the program.
Also, popular now as well as ‘reality tv’ are games simulating things. The Sims being aptly named and encourages people to build their ideal setting and characters. Tying into the metaverse possibly as an end game, who knows.
So, where does the simulation end and reality begin? Or once you believe the simulation is real, does that make it real? Are they just perceptions or absolutes? That will remain to be seen.
(c) K Wicks
Time
It’s a funny thing time. It can stretch on forever or be over in the blink of an eye. We are beholden to it in the modern age, and it’s not by accident. But is it natural? Were we always slaves to the order of it rather than just taking part in the process of it. Was there always an order to it? Has it always run on a cycle, a countdown with a reset date? Like each night at midnight when we ‘reset’ the day to start over. To run the simulation again and again until it eventually reduces the cycle back to zero. But on a bigger scale.
We have our time divided up and dictated, whether we like to admit it or not. The system of our whole day being split into three eights to command a separation and categorising of our time. Work time, down time, sleep time. All very ordered. For industry of course, and the working part of those hours used to be much higher and has changed over time depending on the needs of the corporations, not because of the needs of the people, although it’s painted as such.
And to facilitate the above, we have clocks everywhere. Alarm clocks to frighten, sorry, startle you out of sleep to start your work day. If you are lucky enough to not have to start with an alarm, it can only be a good thing. Your body gets to decide on what terms to start the day. But so much of our daily routine involves and revolves around time and breaking it all down by way of numbers. Clocks being integrated into most parts of your day, to wake you, get you to school, or work, clocking in and clocking out as they say. In your house, on your wrist, now on your phone. TV Programmes arranged by time slots, everything organised by time. Yet it passes us by quite unnoticed sometimes. Hasn’t the time flown by one might say. As can it drag on and seem an eternity, depending on the activity at hand.
The church also plays their part I have noticed. Bells ringing, every quarter hour, and numerous times to signify the hour change (after 1 o’clock obviously). It’s around 96 times a day I think they chime, for timekeeping purposes of course. Nothing to do with the hypnotic rhythmic tolling periodically.
As a society, we are set on a calendar (which has been changed and altered I might add, but for this we’ll go along with what we are told, with some places running on a different one). With years, months, weeks, days, hours, minutes, seconds. And from day dot, having this instilled in us through our childhoods and for the rest of our lives. Along with our age, which is marked by an annual ritual acknowledgement of it, and having multiple tasks, laws and expectations placed upon it.
It can also really tamper with a person’s stability and sensibility if you mess with or rearrange someone’s timeline or knowledge of it. But is that only because people are given a timeline to work within, so without that, you have no grounding or starting point. Imagine if every clock you passed was keeping a different time. And each day things didn’t have a specific reference point for anything, it seems like it would be hectic and chaotic. And perhaps it would without a different system in place. People like to have a starting point, to know where you came from, what you are doing and ideally where you are going. Time can reveal all of these things, if there isn’t a truck load of obstacles in the way and human interference. Time will tell as they say.
We know, or appear to know that time is fixed in our daily lives, past, present and future. Yet we dream and fantasise about travelling backwards or forwards through it. Capturing the secrets of the past, or to reveal the wonders and worries of the future. But the conundrum of either only being able to view said events, or of being perpetually doomed to keep trying to fix something you never can isn’t a happy one. Maybe it’s a good thing we can’t, as far as we know anyway.
Time waits for no-man they say, and it marches forth whether you are taking part or not. But that makes it sound as if time is an entity, rather than a mathematical system of numbers to calculate us into conditioning. As if we have a choice and that time is not our enemy, who is following and stalking us to our fate as we are led to believe. But more a friend, who we can walk with and will be with us to the very end. Depends on your perspective I guess. Your time is up, is another saying we have, to make us think we are a personally on the clock, that we have a set time to go. Like we are programmed to expire and do so because we believe it to be true. Who can say for sure.
It could have been as simple as night and day, afternoon and morning, I’ll never know.
(c) MKW Publishing
A Witch, How Convenient
We know the stories, Salem witch trials and King James I and his hunt across Europe in the 1500’s. Multitudes of woman, and men tortured and killed under the guise and heading of ‘Witchcraft’. For years I believed the story too, as it was told. But as with everything these days, I began to give it a rethink having picked up more information along the way.
My first inkling, other than the systematic system of lies woven into our taught and learned history, was a small fact about alcohol. I’m interested in social history and how we got to these systems, procedures and regulations we see today, so randomly looked this up. I wanted to know when we started licensing alcohol and regulating it and learnt that women headed the trade originally, then came upon this article last year which renewed my interest in the subject – Women used to dominate beer industry.
Showing how women dominated the trade, wore black pointy hats, and had big cauldrons to ‘brew’ the beer. Sounds like an easy leap doesn’t it. Especially when you realise after the ‘witch’ clearances, it appeared it was an industry and land grab as with many other incidents throughout history. People got rid of their competition or problem by shouting ‘Witch’ – even on their own family sometimes. Stupidly simple, swift and effective. They say that men took over after that and women lost their place within that particular industry, and possibly others, I will have to delve further.
But it made me wonder, as I have done previously, about what other gifts and skills may have been targeted by jealous or fearful people. I’ve long thought that natural healers and seers used to exist (and possibly still do today), and that many would have seen them as a threat. It’s also not helpful to some if people can ‘read you’ or know what you intend if you are of a devious nature. That’s why intuition these days is encouraged but used against you as soon as you display it or people catch on you have it. They want you to reveal it, so they can make you mistrust it. They wouldn’t want people knowing what they could really do and are actually capable of.
To be able to remove your business or personal rival must have been an advantage for many. As we see today, once you have something in place to ‘deal with’ those labelled, many terrible things can happen. I believe that’s why they killed some, people with powers were a threat to them. And the rest, people who just knew too much? Well, I think asylums probably helped a bit there. You could just lock someone away forever if they wanted them out of the way. They were also used to get rid of people who were just a mere inconvenience to some, in the way or selfishness or inheritance. Don’t misunderstand me though, these are not just tools of the past, they continue to this day. Just with different names, labels, methods and gains.
Many people didn’t fall for the ruse though, and were unwittingly then caught up in it themselves, because those who perpetrate the atrocities will do all they can to keep them either hidden or make them acceptable. And there will always be people who are thrown to the wolves as they say. Nuremberg being an example of that, and quite possibly we will see another one of those types of trials in the very near future over the latest scandal upon the masses. October I am told it will happen, but as with everything we are given a ‘heads up’ for, only time will tell…
(c) K Wicks
If You Control The Food
This one is about food. It can’t have escaped many people’s attention that this is a massive issue being orchestrated around us. Globally, nationally and locally. It’s high on the priority list and seems to be making the news a lot. To start with local and national issues, it seems foodbanks are a big thing and to me were the first signs of issues coming. It’s no secret that foodbanks have been a growing in number in the last few years, even before the ‘pandemic’ was rolled out. The cost of living putting the squeeze on many a person and family. And rather than look at the cause of the problem and sort that out by lowering costs and the corporate profits, they just think a quick fix solution will see it through in the short term. Prevention rather than cure they used to say, not anymore apparently. But I would like to examine a few things around the foodbanks, as I see the for and against argument in action and know of the issues, because people are people. I have struggled in my younger days to afford food, and had a patchy upbringing initially for consistency, so can appreciate some of the social issues that feed into this (no pun intended).
The argument is that people who can well afford food are using them, but just so they can save a bit of money, or use said funds for something else. If someone else will pay for your dinner, then why not? What’s the harm in taking what is on offer? Do people consider that someone else may miss out because they are in line? Maybe. But the counter argument could be, they are avoiding missing out themselves by getting in there first. And as we well know, many who need it won’t even try, through shaming of themselves for reasons known to them (lots of people see it as a failure if they can’t afford food, and won’t want to share that fact). No-one else required for that shame it would seem, they hold themselves back on that one which in itself is a shame. It would have been shocking in my youth to see someone with a full-time well-paid job, queuing up for charity handouts. The idea was, if you work hard you can provide for yourself. And it was that way once, until they decided that they didn’t want people having enough, or being comfortable. And what was once well paid, does not even cut it now. The idea that you could sustain a household and family on one income is pretty much a myth now, a story of times very much past. We can only dream of that kind of luxury now.
But I used to think it was a combination of pride and shame that kept everything in check. Not the rules, or the systems themselves, but people and their attitudes and outward demeanour. I know social attitudes haven’t always been for the better, but I believed this one worked. Because of the community set up. Pride and shame would sometimes get in the way, as people wouldn’t always ask for help (and is still the case as mentioned above), and they wouldn’t want to be seen as a failure, either to themselves or to everyone else. It can be hard. But I fully believed that if you couldn’t feed yourself, you would have to ask for help, either knock on someone’s door and ask, or try and beg for food. I thought the community was meant to be there to help, but it is only a community if people know each other, and there is a common purpose within it. So once someone had sorted themselves out, people would know if they were then taking the piss. The levels of greed and selfishness people can employ is staggering, with little or no thought, compassion or empathy towards others. And it seems that lots of people who genuinely do need help, are also too shy or afraid to ask. Having a brass neck gets you more, and being quiet and reserved doesn’t. This we know. But my grandpa gave me another piece of advice I took very literally and used throughout my life “If you don’t ask you don’t get, and the worst that can happen is people say no”. Simple and effective. It’s a skill though on top of that to prepare yourself for that possible no, as well as being mature enough to understand and gauge if it is really necessary to ask, and if you are within the etiquette of the relationship you have with the person or entity you are asking for something from. And being able to accept the ‘no’ in a gracious manner and move on. Imposing on people, or using their good nature against them is not good etiquette.
But as with the folk who will let shame hold them back from asking, there are those who seem to have none. At all. So can we find a balance in all that? Is there a way to educate people to understand the difference between need and want, to have better knowledge of land management, land practices and be more actively involved in them? Some are trying, with self-sustainability a view, but as the authorities cast their net of control even further, those are part of the things now under very real attack. Supermarkets are being overhauled, the meat industry being hampered, new rules and regulations to license everything even further, meaning there is always a way to get rid of your competition, or just competing ideas. The increase in utilities in the UK appears to be the last sure-fire way to decimate lots of businesses that managed to hold on throughout the last few years. Many are shutting down as they simply can’t afford to provide heat and light or pay their bills. We really have come far, haven’t we? It’s shocking we continue to look to the same people and establishment that caused this, to fix this. As if it is some error of judgement they made, or that they mean to help sort it out. Neither are correct. And once you accept they have an overriding plan in place, things make more sense. Food is going to be the big one. Some people can do without their travel monitoring, some don’t need their medical ‘care’, or the education system they offer. So how do you get the people who aren’t tied in via other means. The one thing that literally everyone has in common. Food and the need to eat.
I have already covered lots of the angles they are using and how they tie together in my previous article It seems an attack, trying to explain the how and the why for the people who can’t seem to see it.
It’s relentless now though, paying UK farmers to retire early, trying to push Dutch farmers off their land so they can buy it, multiple corporate purchases of farmland in the US. India has also had its farming attacked in recent years, and others if you start to look around the world. Fires of food plants, burning of wheat fields, power cuts so previously stored food has to be chucked away. Paving the way nicely I might add for those corporate giants to unroll their ‘new menu’ for the masses. Deciding for some unknown reason that they are in charge of nature, the world and of its management. Which is terrifying by itself, but factor in that they have no interest in humanity or saving anything. They want a sweep and clear operation, out with the old and in with the new. But it’s so heartless, and empty what they foresee as our future, so I am not on board. I still believe that people can take responsibility for themselves and others, and can start to right some of the wrongs being inflicted on a level not seen in our lifetime. But they have paved the way for the worst in people to come out, laid the foundations, created imagery and propaganda to stoke those attributes, so we will see if humanity can avoid the trap we have been set. There is a strange future coming…
(c) K Wicks
A Raw Deal
Kids are getting a real raw deal at the moment. It’s relentless. The most recent two things, firstly, in Wales they are looking to ban children under 16 from buying tea and coffee. Apparently because of obesity and sugar intake, but completely not mentioning the energy drinks laden with chemicals and sugar they have been pushing and encouraging for years. The second is about a secondary school somewhere in the UK deciding that for summer, boys can wear skirts if they don’t want to wear trousers, to be more inclusive. No shorts allowed. I’m outraged on their behalf as I hated not being allowed to wear trousers at school, we had to wear tights in the winter if our legs got cold, end of. And this seems similar, if you are too hot, wear a skirt, end of. But what are they really doing it for? Surely if it was about being inclusive, you would have choice for all. Trousers, skirts or shorts, for all. Is it just to make waves? Or do they really just want children to feel weird, and pressured, and restricted by bizarre rules and regulations? It says the parents are not happy about it, but I would like to know what the kids think.
They seem to have been dealt a weird blow over the last few years, and it shows no signs of letting up or normalising anytime soon. Their future has been impaired beyond belief from my view, not only have they had to contend with constantly changing rules and regulations around their homelife, school life and socialising, but they are being conditioned to know it can be disrupted at any time thereafter. And we see how the powers that be seem awfully focused on getting children to partake in the experimental jab doing the rounds, bribing them through offers of ice-cream, cinema tickets, calling them ‘superheroes’ on posters, all very telling and obvious. Or not, because not all do see it. They still think the system is there to help. But to the rest of us it appears they are being groomed. That is another word that will pop up later in the article, and with good reason.
It seems to be a new world, and it sure isn’t a brave one. It’s one where some adults seem quite obsessed with exposing children to adult themes and concepts, without them having the experience or emotional maturity to understand them. Children can be very impressionable, and how they interpret things is not like an adult would at all, as well it also depending on what age they are being exposed. What may affect someone profoundly at one age, could have just passed them by if only a few years later. It helps to mould, shape and influence them. It strikes me as easier to manipulate people if they are worried and confused, either by what or who they are, leads to uncertainty and insecurity. And one that requires an authorative body to ‘help’ to solve that uncertainty and issues around it, so we are led to believe. But what if that authorative body had an ulterior motive, and not your best interests at heart? They don’t want to see you happy and adjusted to life, because then they wouldn’t be needed. At all. If we understood we are capable of looking after ourselves and each other, the ‘ruling elite’ would be surplus to requirement. And they know it.
Grooming. Here is where I will revisit that word, it should hold meaning in the UK (and far beyond I’m sure) it has been an issue in this country for decades and only a few people have tried to sound the alarm on it for a while. The media have finally and very unwillingly picked up the story, of thousands of children across the country in various towns, mainly female we are told, being coerced and abused on a shocking scale. But what is even more shocking, is how the authorities have completely turned a blind eye. ALL of them. Social services, media, police, councils, churches, politicians, teachers, business owners to name but a few. Why? Because they don’t want to be seen as racist apparently or inflame local tensions. Because if they were talking about the problem, it would highlight very clearly it is a cultural one, that predominately it is men of Pakistani origin or background. One can only assume that a number of people in authority were also involved as it appeared to suit their purpose very much to keep it all ticking over. I’m in my 40’s now, but knew as a teenager you didn’t want to get too friendly with the blokes that ran the local Indian restaurant. They encouraged young people to stay after hours, offering drinks and smokes. A ‘friendly’ place to hang out when the doors are locked. Although I was 18 at the time, as was my friend I was with, it didn’t feel right and I didn’t want to stay, so we left and I didn’t go back. And it may have been nothing at the time, and not what I thought, but I didn’t want to risk it. I’ve known for a long time that the ruling establishment is not there to help, protect or save us, but they want you to think they are. Now it has become more obvious than ever that their intentions are not entirely admirable, and if anything, are really quite sinister towards all of us, adults and children alike.
I’m not sure what kind of education young people would do well to learn these days, but I’m giving it thought. They are changing the goalposts of life very quickly and where one would normally be able to think years ahead (or even months), it has been hampered. But what once was no longer is, and what is will no longer be. A new time is coming…
(c) K Wicks
It’s Big Business
It’s no secret that the new big business is now the medical and pharmaceutical industry, and it has been for a while but now it is moving to take over most other industries and try to insert itself into everyone’s life in some way. Life and death are now the main money makers it seems and are fully in the hands of the authorities. A few points to note on this.
They want to control if you can breed, using sterilisation projects on people they deem undesirable, and various methods and ways to dictate laws surround pregnancy and birthing rights. Economics and laws then determine if you can afford to look after yourself and offspring, with there also being a big business within adoption, surrogacy and unfortunately, abortion too. We all now know they harvest the body parts from the foetus to use in vaccine production and other things, it all makes them money. IVF also makes them lots of money, so it serves a purpose for them in most situations.
Payments for certain conditions during the ‘pandemic’ should have alerted most people something was afoot. Money to doctors for giving jabs, extra money to hospitals for every ‘rona death, more money if put on a ventilator. Death certificates being falsified for payments, midazolam ordered and administered in alarming quantities to give those deaths needed for the numbers and money. Shocking isn’t it. But it’s still only a small part of it.
So much money is now being made off the ‘sale’ of these vaccines to various countries and governments, eye watering profits being made for the few from medical experiments and grief, leaving a trail of devastation behind them, but ignoring it fully and sweeping forward with a most dastardly plan. They want everybody to have their little electronic device, give them blood samples/tests daily, and to keep you on a drip. Yes, just like the ones in hospital, but with a much longer invisible tube that feeds you, monitors you, decides what you are lacking and orders it for you – all of which you have to pay for with your time and health. Australia has just admitted they want everyone to have a booster every 9 months now, forever. Medically assisted suicide is being discussed in more countries too, so the people now in pain, can finish themselves off! Oh, how we were laughed at two years ago for even suggesting that this is what was coming. But it was an obvious move, these shots were never meant to cure or prevent anything, they were designed as a cascade event, to weaken and bring down a very eloquent and great thing we have. Our immune system. Even now I still believe there are those who won’t be affected by the shot, whose body may just have a super immune system already and it quashes it. And there may be those who body assimilates it, and it does not harm them but instead becomes part of them. And there are those who simply cannot adapt or fight it and it becomes an internal attack for them. I believe they are interested in all three results, but only really have the jabbed to go by, as everyone else has side stepped their plan.
Back to the money though, so many different areas making it now. Councils and schools getting pay-outs for following the rules and shutting things down, businesses being bribed to close ‘for everyone’s safety’. Hospitals and doctors raking it in through jab payments, while having to do very little in return (mainly GP’s there and when the videos of dancing idiots came out, so busy, but clearly not). Pharmaceutical companies also have been making a tidy sum prescribing various things to a) treat the side effects of the jab, and b) dishing out antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds like there is no tomorrow. To children and adults alike. Dulling and distracting their senses, making it even harder to work out which way is up.
But it’s the insurance companies who will be left with a massive bill, and I believe is an industry next in line for the chopping block anyway as with them all. They will simply bleed them dry like everything else, but they are in a unique position here to really sound the alarm, to show people outside of gov and big pharma, that something is so very wrong, it needs to be noticed. But will people listen…
(c) K Wicks
Perceptions of Self
My understanding is that there are three perceptions of self that make up the whole view we create of ourselves, to ourselves on a basic level.
1) How we view ourselves
2) How we view other people, and
3) How we think other people perceive us.
You might think it’s just a given that people can understand these things that contribute towards your identity, internally and externally. But that’s not always so. Did you ever meet someone who seems to give no thought to how others view them? Some people just don’t care, I’m aware of that, but others completely lack the ability to view themselves from an outside viewpoint. That old saying we have of ‘put yourself in their shoes’ is for this very concept I believe. But not everyone actually can it seems, so it’s just a phrase to them.
Firstly though, there is how you view yourself. The perception of who you are, what you are and how you came to be. Formed through various experiences and actions, people, places, thoughts, feelings and time. You. But it’s not that simple is it, because along the way through all of that, there have been outside influences which have helped to shape that viewpoint and not everyone has had the time, space or inclination in their life to give it real thought. So, is it really you?
Secondly, how we view others. This is also based around you, and what you have taken in over your lifetime as with above. Many people have a judgemental view or like to presume things about others based on those perceptions, rather than facts. Others take a different view and fact find to build a sound assessment of someone, but it will still be based on perceptions usually, even once in possession of the facts.
And thirdly, how we think others view us, because we can’t really know for sure even if they tell us, we don’t see through others eyes, so can only have a projected imaginary view of this. Within that, that there are some people who have no concept of what others think of them, or the view they have, but we presume everyone can. We like to think though, that most people are able to understand that other people will see them in a certain way if they behave or act in a certain way. This is also influenced by a number of things, mainly how you present yourself to the outside world. Many people have suffered disappointment at not being viewed as they wished, although they have no idea why. The expectation not living up to reality. On both sides.
Perceptions of how we think we are meant to be and how we believe others should see us, is often at a discord to reality, (which is itself perceived) but possibly is why some people latch onto delusional thinking. It’s easier for them to remain in their own construct, rather than understand and learn about other peoples and yourself. And they often argue or fight to keep their delusions in place because it’s easier and familiar and takes no work at all. It can just remain. It can sometimes be a long arduous process to think outside of yourself, but one that seems really important, even if it’s just to get to know yourself a bit better.
(c) K Wicks
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