A Way to Communicate

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It’s not all about words. How we use them, convey them and understand them, there is also much more that goes into it. Facial expressions, energy, intention and approach. We already know just words can be and are used for purpose, as discussed in Words and Meaning and Crafty, but as a general tool needed in everyday life, it seems many overlook their potential, and power when it comes to society.

People with charisma, often noted as being able to say almost anything at all, if you do it in a charismatic way. So, it is their presence that gives words something extra, their delivery and timing. Often to great effect.

Passive aggressive comments and actions – for people who don’t know how to approach a conversation, situation or because they are trying to control the atmosphere and want people to either respond, or be dominated by their words. The ones who sigh under their breath, make comments to thin air, but expect anyone within earshot to say something or ask about their plight. Who clatter around in a rageful way, but act surprised when questioned what their problem might be. In fact, not just surprised, but offended. Look at me, don’t look at me kind of thing.

Shouting at people, not quite as effective as some people think. You may indeed get your basic point across, but often it is invalidated by the approach. Trying to let someone know how you feel, by making them feel bad, isn’t a good approach, and shouting is a good way to let them know a few things as well. Firstly, that you are not in control of your emotions, and once someone has lost control and started down that route, unfortunately trying to talk to them normally doesn’t work. So, you get dragged into shouting back in order to even be able to ‘talk’ to them. And secondly, they are being disrespectful towards you by raising their voice and using aggressive tactics.

How to Win Friends and Influence People – a book by Dale Carnegie. And one I was recommended to read many years ago. I enjoyed it very much, but already worked out certain things along the way just through paying attention. Being aware of the ways in which you approach things and people, you can end up getting the best out of people and situations, as I thought you were meant to. Yet some people get so very stuck in their ways, and believe others are the issue, or the obstacle holding them back. Not quite realising that it is they who are the obstruction, to their own life running a bit more smoothly. The internet having much to look at when it comes to interactions and how people decide to conduct themselves in a somewhat public setting, looked at in the article Putting Your Best Foot Forward. Where you do get to see the best and the worst of people, but only in words and in a well thought out and packaged format. And occassionally with a video and a face to emote what they want to, but not the full package of expressions you would expect when in person. Where you can see for yourself, and you can also feel for yourself. That skill we have of reading energy is stronger in person, and maybe part of the reason online is encouraged so much. For dating, education, finance, emotions, health, work, friendships and more. It diminishes part of our abilities to evaluate people properly, which for many is already impaired or non-existent.

When it comes to understanding people though, I have found certain quotes along the way have also been of great help, just to know that others have observed and encountered the same thing. And then went on to so eloquently explain the problem or lack or reasoning occurring in the conversational counterpart.

“She had lost the art of conversation but not, unfortunately, the power of speech.” ~George Bernard Shaw~

“I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Alan Greenspan~

And it’s easy to get confused, with different meanings, intentions and interpretations of things. Which is why I think it is so important to be able to discuss, in a constructive way, what those differences or misunderstanding are. And if not, then just stop talking, and go your own merry way…

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Surprise tree

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A little surprise, I presume a squirrel gift as hazelnuts don’t usually find their way into bags of wood chips. But it found a tiny point of light and went for it. What a lovely find, and I will put it with my cherry and apple trees I’m trying to grow.

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Dr Grim

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They now seem a rather creepy entity, watching, waiting, and ultimately stalking until such time as they can pounce on their prey. Yet, most of their prey walk willingly to them, as if hypnotised like the Eloi in Time Machine. When the sirens sound, a trance begins, and any thought that might have been there disappears. And then they volunteer themselves over to the system, give their alliegance, emotions, offspring, blood and sometimes ending up with donating your organs. A feast for the Grim Reaper.

Watching and waiting no longer seems to be enough, they want to be on you, in you and with you for every breath and step. Hooked up and plugged in, so they can decide what you need administered, how they think you need to be altered, and made to fit their ideal. The perfect height, weight, look, feeling, and so on. All part of the rather instrusive and intimate set-up that now seeks to dominate people’s existence.

The ‘men in white coats’ as they have been called, are more like ghouls than ever before, who have chosen white to try and appear virtuous perhaps. Of course, it’s a good base colour for seeing dirt and for cleanliness, but the overall impression it gives, is supposed to be benign. Think of most security outfits and uniforms, usually black or dark colours, to make you think of severity and punishment. Colours and their placing have many uses, obvious and subconscious ones as people well know.

But they are an important part of the chain, answerable and beholden to ‘the system’ as well as the ones who would like them to distribute their wares to the masses. With much in-fighting now taking place as some realise what a sinister trade it is, hiding behind the face of a friendly, helpful service which we are forced to fund. Well, not so friendly anymore, as discussed previously in It Looked Sinister and More Than Sinister. But I had already had a heads up about it being a buckled cover for something more nefarious, having mentioned in Perhaps an idea that was put forward decades ago, about warehouses for the living dead. Where people could be kept alive so their body parts could be harvested when needed.

That’s is maybe why people have now decided to rethink their ideas about health, and who they will go to for assistance in the future. And to give more thought to the motives behind the people who say they want to help you, and examine what is being offered to decide for yourself if it is indeed in your best interest. As we always should have been, but complacency and convenience can make you take your eye off the ball, as well as naivety. Allowing that system to convince everyone that they are defective in some way or broken, or that they are the problem, and not that it is society that is broken and defective and needs fixing. A society which creates problems for people, then pretends to offer the solution, often creating more problems. And within all those social problems, certain people have worked out to capitalise on them, perpetuate them, and create more of them in their ultimate drive to continue Making Money From Misery…

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